Look into a 504 plan to address issues at school related to physical special needs. All of those concerns can and should be addressed in a lovely document.
When she turns three, call the school system and demand to have her evaluated. The Birth to Three people have different criteria than the school system does. If you request an evaluation, federal law says that the school system has to perform it. The speech teacher should only asses one area of ability, but you will need assessments across all domains.
No matter what, she will have to have a 504 plan.
Get in touch if you need help in getting assessments done. With a kid with autism, I'm an expert in that!