wow. i don't know what to say. please do check out Missy's links. this is a great site for networking. i hope you can get some help for your baby and yourself as well.
with my birthmark, my lip in particular, when it cracks badly i just use lip balm or vaseline when i am home. it takes time to heal but its the best thing. same with the pimples. alittle savlon and sometimes just using my face mositurizer to make sure the scab doesn't dry out too much and bleed
good luck ! just try to hang in there. something will work out