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Old 04-07-2011, 12:12 AM
gdykes gdykes is offline
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I am a 56 year old man and I have three Port Wine Stains on my face. One covers the entire left temple. The other my entire left cheek and the third one is under my left eye. It looks like a black eye. I did not date much as a teenager due to the lack of self confidence the birthmarks caused me but I did have girlfriends, many of them ďjust friendsĒ others were girls I took out occasionally and there were others whom I could have dated had I only asked them. I finally went steady with someone my senior year of high school. I didnít date much in college either but the opportunities were certainly there. Most of my reticence has been in my mind. However I did begin experimenting covering the birthmarks with make up in my early 20ís during college and became expert at it, so good at it that after college I went on to become a local television news reporter and weatherman and professional sales representative all the while expertly hiding the birthmarks with make up. Covering up the birthmark created some new, quirky problems for me to deal with, however. Living with a birthmark is not easy but it has developed in me three important personal character traits: (1) Some things are just tough s--t so be grateful for the good things you have (2) Suck it up and go (3) Grin and bear it!

The above isnít my life story by any means. I could write a book about that. And maybe so someday. I can make myself available to listen to others with a PWS and discuss and compare problems and experiences living with a facial PWS.
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Old 04-07-2011, 12:21 AM
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Hi and welcome!

Thank you so much for taking the time to type all that out. It will certainly help people to read your story and your matter-of-fact approach. I know others will be along and want to talk to you!

Missy
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Old 04-07-2011, 12:25 AM
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Yeah I was raised right. My parents dealt ( both very attractive by the way) with it the best way they could for 1954. My dad was a very no non-sense type of man and he raised me to be that way too.
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Old 04-07-2011, 12:29 AM
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Yeah I was raised right. My parents dealt ( both very attractive by the way) with it the best way they could for 1954. My dad was a very no non-sense type of man and he raised me to be that way too.

It shows.

Again, welcome! We will value your input around here.

Missy
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Old 04-20-2011, 12:45 AM
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yup ! bad days suck but the good days I am usually high as a kite with hyperness and just try to enjoy it
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Old 05-10-2011, 12:27 AM
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Let there be no doubt I have been hiding behind makeup since age 22. People who know me from my teen years probably find it odd that I cover the birthmark, afterall that's how they know me; their friend who has one of those big birthmarks. However, people who have only known me during my adult years would be shocked to see my face without makeup. And their good opinions of me would reverse immediately. I know because I have exposed it on occaission to some people, sometimes inadvertently. I haven't had to suck it up and go, or even grin and bear it for a long time now. I have spoiled myself rotten with makeup. I had a promising local television news career in my early 30's but I wimped out and let the "hiding behind makeup" win that one, even though people you see on TV all wear makeup. That's another story. Will share it with anyone who is interested.
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