iriecricket: I think that it is possible I am more sensitive because of how hard we tried and how long we tried to get pregnant. And, I've secretly always longed for a girl so I wanted to celebrate having her and her beauty. It is hard even just on me to look at her birthmark and realize that it is an imperfection (although, honestly, it is very small compared to others too, plus, I realize that it is not life-threatening and I am blessed to have a healthy child). I am not sure that doctors, though, really understand that having a child with a birthmark, however small, there is a bit of a grieving period parents go through. Nothing serious as other medical issues, perhaps, but there is a time where you go through it and realize that all the baby pictures will have the H on it.
Since I live in Canada, I am unable to just get a referral to a specialist without my doctor's approval..and since my doc is certain that it will "eventually go away" the only thing she has relented and done is given us a topical steroid cream. I am left to wonder and wait for the most part. It was only due to my research online that I realized that my doctor was nuts when she said it would be gone before a year. I saw pictures online and read information that said that she could easily have this well into primary school and beyond.
Thanks for your post..it appears we are in a similar boat for sure.
And..I will pray for you and your family too...This is not a fun road but I am hopeful that eventually it will fade.