hello, ok first forgive me if im putting this in the wrong forum or anything im new here
im 15 and have a very visible birthmark the left hand side of my face. it covers my eye half of my nose and all of my cheek. ive noticed a lot of parents on here wanting to know how to deal with there childs birthmark, i hope i can help by telling you my experiences.
when i was little my birthmark didnt bother me at all, it was just what i saw when i looked in the mirror, it was just a part of me. but as i became older and realised that i looked different from most people i became very self concious. I get a lot of stares in the streets, mostly off little children who dont know any better. Some people have asked me about it, while completely avoiding eye contact and staring at my cheek. it does affect me but i think now that im older i can deal with it better than when i was younger and didnt really know what to say. If someone asks me now i just say oh its just a birthmark, nothing special and leave it at that. My mam has always been very supportive, she really wanted me to use foundation when i started senior school, scared i would get bullied and stared at, which i did but i just smiled back, partly to be nice but partly cos i was scared stiff of the year 11's!
i had treatment on my birthmark since i was a baby which i was told stopped it from raising off my face. i stopped the treatment when i was 12 because it hurt a lot and i couldnt see any difference. my mam was always scared that i would be picked on and be shy, but im doing fine in school and are going off to college next year!i also have a saturday job which i have to work on a till and talk to people, which has really helped boost my confidence. i guess what im trying to put across is that yes people will probably stare and ask your child whats wrong with them, but accept your birthmark and other people will to, and who really cares if they dont? those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter. of course everyones different thats just my view